Back before I started my healing I found that I would get very defensive and offended when someone pointed out a weakness or mistake I had made. I would take it personally. So, because of those weaknesses, I would feel the need to justify or explain the reason I made the decision I did.
I would attempt to verbally recreate and explain the situation that made me do what I did. I guess I felt like if I explained it and laid it all out there that maybe the person involved would understand the situation better.
I would feel like this justification was necessary. But in the long run, it would just frustrate me because the other person would blank out and not really comprehend or validate the explanation that I was giving
So I have realized that justification and or an explanation was not necessary. I now just apologize or just move on. Actions speak louder than words.
Take Care Much Love
