Shortly after graduating from high school Bethanie started college at The University of Findlay.  Of course, I wanted to show how proud I was.  So I bought a “Proud Findlay Mom” sticker for my car.

Just one semester later she decided to leave college.  I respected her decision.  Over time though every time I looked at that sticker on my car I found myself struggling.  Knowing this was her dream college.  She worked so hard to get there.

Sometimes I wonder if I wanted it more than she did.  Because I never went to college after high school.  I think I was living through her to achieve that goal.  Because I was a single mom I wanted her to achieve that goal to crush the statistics.  But ultimately this is her life and she has to live it the way she wants

I had a similar struggle when Lilie went in the Army.   that said, “Proud Army Mom” I bought a boot-shaped magnet.  I  wanted her to go the whole 20.  To retire from the Army.  Something that I was not able to do.  But that is not what the plan was.

She just got discharged from the Army after serving 8 months 22 days (630 days).  It was hard as she was going through the process.  I just wanted her to excel in life.

Both of their journeys had different plans that college and the Army.  I have realized that there is no need to put a label on what kind of proud Ultimately I am proud of both of my girls.  They are 21 and 19 years old and they are spreading their wings and flying no matter what.

I AM BETHANIE’S PROUD MOM

I AM LILIE’S PROUD MOM

Take Care.  Much Love.